You may have heard of the "Art of Surrender" if you have read any Abraham Hicks books or recently learned about manifesting with the law of attraction. This is usually the hardest part of manifestation (especially if you are like me and want things to happen as fast as your mind can dream them up). But luckily one of the LAST things you need to do to receive your desires and, more importantly, stop stressing and go back to enjoying your already beautiful life! 🥰
You may be wondering "how do I surrender when I really want something?" or maybe "if I let it go it how will it ever happen?!". Here are my best tips to help you relax into the divine feminine so you can finally get into the receiving mode and manifest your desires!
****It is important to note, if you haven't read my blog on the 4 Steps to Manifest you may want to start there. I share my exact manifestation formula and surrendering is the last step so definitely read that blog first to get a basic understanding before diving in deeper below.****
Okay, welcome back! Now that you understand law of attraction a little bit better, lets learn how to surrender your desires to the universe so you can finally manifest!
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How to Know You NEED To Surrender Your Manifestations:
💖 if you have been working towards a goal for months, but you're not seeming to make any progress
💖 if you feel frustrated, unmotivated, or no longer excited about it. Maybe even consider giving up?
💖 if your affirmations or manifestation formula doesn't actually make you feel the warm fuzzies anymore
💖 if you feel like no matter what you do, nothing seems to actually work and you don't know what to do next
💖 if you feel overwhelmed and exhausted trying to figure it out on your own
The Universe, God, Source, Whatever it is to you WANTS to help you achieve this goal. You were given this desire at this time for a reason. The word "desire" literally means "of the Father" aka divine in the original latin. So, of course, your spirit team is willing to support and guide you on this journey. All you have to do is let go and ask!
But HOW will it happen if I surrender it?!?
Surrendering isn't giving up and hoping the Universe delivers your desire on your door step. Instead you are letting go of the doubt, fear, worry, and trying to force and hustle it into existence. That is only creating more resistance to it flow into your life and may be why it hasn't happened yet! And even after you surrender it, you are still allowed to work towards this goal and do your manifestation rituals as long as it feels GOOD to do and doesn't bring up that worry & doubt for it. If it does, maybe it's best to let it rest and come back to it later. 😉
It may also be possible that this goal hasn't happened because there is something BIGGER and BETTER for you out there, but you are so set with how it should happen that you don't even see all the other opportunities around you. By surrendering you are opening yourself up to the highest good for all and allowing whatever that is to flow to you.
I also notice that when I surrender it allows the Universe to surprise me in the way even more magical than I could imagine! ✨ When we try to do it all on our own and force the outcome, we limit the possibilities and the creative ways it could happen. But actually allowing the Universe in to co-create makes it easier, faster, and a whole lot more fun!
Lastly, the "how" isn't your responsibility. There is a far greater plan for your life than you could ever dream up. Your only job is to listen to your heart, let your desires guide you, and try to enjoy the ride. You focus on the "what" and the "why" while the Universe figures out the "how".
psst...not to be sassy, but if forcing and hustling hasn't made it happen yet you have nothing to lose by surrendering it so might as well try and see what happens. Worst case scenario, you relax a bit and it still doesn't happen. Best case scenario? You finally receive your desire, but more importantly strengthen your trust in the Universe and finally learn how to manifest. Just saying ;)
Before You Surrender...
First, take a moment to journal on what you REALLY desire. It could be possible that what you think you want isn't what you actually desire and that is why it feels like it is taking forever to happen.
A lot of the time people try to manifest something they see other's working towards without first checking in to see if that is what they actually want in this life.
For example, for a long time I had the goal to make enough money so I could get my nails 💅🏼 done weekly and lash extensions. Literally for YEARS this was on my vision board until I recently realized I only wanted those things because I thought that's what rich people do. In my head, you freaking made it if you could afford luxuries like that.
I still wanted long lashes and beautiful nails, but deep down I actually wanted to stop my bad habit of picking at my cuticles & for my lashes to grow, not just have something glued on top. Also, it didn't feel good to me getting acrylic nails that would damage my actual ones and create more plastic waste in the world. So I EFT Tapped to help with the stress triggering the cuticle picking and bought some collagen & a lash serum. Now my nails are strong and my lashes are long! I still got my desires, but in a way that felt more in alignment and had little to do with making more money.
Reminder - you receive what is of the highest good for you and for all! If a desire is taking a long time to manifest, it may be that there is something better for you out there or you don't truly want what you think. Spend a few moments to get really clear on what you want and why you want it.
Next, are you okay with the fact that if you surrender it that the goal may change so something bigger and better can happen? Again, you will receive what is of the highest good of all and that may be different than what you have in mind. So before you continue reading the next section, you have to recognize letting go means letting God/Universe/Source have full control. If that feels hard or scary, journal on all the times the Universe had your back and things worked out better than planned! Or book a Tap Through Session with me to breakthrough this limiting belief.
How Do I Surrender?
Now that you are 100% positive in what you desire and are okay with the fact the goal may change for the better, we can chat about how to relax so you receive it!
Luckily, surrendering is super easy to do....in theory. Actually letting go is the hardest part of manifestation and what my 1:1 clients struggle with the most which is why I made it an ENTIRE module in Manifested It! The Course. In that 30 minute video training, I dive deeper into everything I am teaching you in this blog + share my own real life examples of surrendering + more techniques to try! But how can you get started right now?
There are tons of ways to let it gooo (as Elsa from Frozen ❄️ would say) and it varies what works best person to person so here are my BEST tips to surrender your desires. As I always say "take what you love, leave what you don't, but try everything once":
1. Get quiet, think about your desire, then repeat this prayer: "Universe (God/Source/etc), I surrender this desire so that it may happen in the most divine timing and way. I invite in support and guidance that it may unfold for the highest good of all. Thank you!" It can be as simple as that! And if that fear of "how will it happen?" pops up again, repeat this prayer or try the affirmations below to calm your doubts.
2. Repeat These Affirmations. Like Abraham Hicks says "a belief is just a thought you keep thinking." So let's say these affirmations on repeat to help you surrender the outcome and change your beliefs about what is possible for you. Take a few moments to say each of these affirmations and pay attention to which ones feel best to you. If you'd like you can also say these affirmations while you EFT Tap (we will talk more about this below) or program them into the "Reminders" of your phone 📱 throughout the day so you remember to say them.
3. Visualize Letting It Go. This simple visualization only takes a few minutes, but is super powerful. All you have to do is get comfy, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and imagine your desire in your hands almost like a snow globe showing a mini version of what you want. Next, visualize a beautiful basket 🧺 in front of you with a golden string tied to the top going all the way up into the heavens/Universe. Anything you put into this basket the Universe will take care of for you. Take a deep breath in, reach your hands out, and place your desire into the basket. Exhale to let it go and watch the desires be pulled up into the clouds. You can repeat this visualization anytime you are stressing about your desire, but know that once is enough and the Universe is taking care of it on your behalf.
Want to be guided through it? Try this visualization from Manifested It! The Course:
4. EFT Tap to Surrender it. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Tapping is my go-to for any funky emotions I need to work through. By lightly tapping on different energy meridian points on your body and talking through your fears, you are able to calm down your amygdala ( the flight or fight response in your brain). By doing this you helping yourself relax as well as reprogram your subconscious thoughts. I mostly do this with my 1:1 clients to help them work through their limiting beliefs, but it also works great for surrendering your desires. If you want to try this for yourself, this Youtube Video is great to follow along too!
5. Focus on Another Desire. If you are really struggling with surrendering this desire, it may be helpful to focus your energy on something else. Pick a smaller goal or another area of your life to focus on and put all your energy towards that. Luckily, any desire you have had ever exists energetically so even if you aren't actively focusing on that particular desire you simply doing the work to get into alignment daily even if it is focusing on something else will still help you manifest your original desire. After you visualize or EFT Tap to let it go, pick a new goal to focus on and trust that what is meant for you will find you in the perfect timing.
BONUS: Relax to Receive. I saved my BEST tip for last and you may have heard me say it before on Instagram stories #relaxtoreceive. Last year I was playing with the affirmations that "the more I relax the more I receive." I said it all day long during my launch week for 1:1 coaching and then the craziest thing happened...my first client signed up while I was out shopping! And then another while I was taking a bubble bath! It seemed people only signed up when I wasn't at my computer stressing about the launch or my business.
The reason relaxing to receive works is because you are finally letting down your walls and stop creating resistance to your desires flowing in. As Abraham Hicks (can you tell I listen to their work a lot?) describes it, the Universe is a like a stream of wellbeing flowing to you. This stream is never ending, but your resistance can stop it momentarily like a dam. You don't have to do anything to make it flow. You simply have to allow it in. By relaxing aka surrendering like we talked about above, you are releasing any resistance that is stopping the stream from flowing to you with your desires.
Now practicing relaxing to receive, or tapping into the "divine feminine" as some say, is a simple two step process. First, you find an activity that relaxes you - bubble baths, shopping, hiking, reading a book, yoga, etc. Once you are in that relaxed state notice what good things come to you. Maybe a butterfly flutters across your path as your read a book outside. Or an old friend might text you something kind as you indulge in a bubble bath. The more you notice and appreciate the good things that you receive while relaxing, the more it will happen in your life.
💛 For more tips on relaxing to receive and surrendering your desires, check out module 4 of Manifested It! The Course for three more additional techniques and further explanations to help you finally receive your desires!
As I said at the beginning of this blog, take what you love and leave what you don't! Surrendering is the hardest part of manifestation and I know how difficult it can be to let go of something you really want. But trust me, anything meant for you while find you. It's simply your job to feel good and stay in alignment!
Try out all these tips and see which one helps you the most! Everyone's journey is different and based on your past experiences and current mindset what works for one person may not work for you. Manifestation is all about what you learn about yourself in the process, not just the shiny thing you made appear. So enjoy the journey of becoming your true self and know you can't eff this up even if you tried!
If you would love more personalized guidance and a spiritual bestie cheering you on, I have a few spots open for private coaching where every week we video chat about your desires. We get crystal clear on your desires, EFT Tap through any limiting beliefs, and I share tons of helpful tips based on where you are in your journey. This is where we go DEEP so if you are ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, apply here!
If you have any questions or comments, please share them below! I can't wait to hear what you manifest!
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